Crash

Filed in Charanne , Single , THE BABBIES 3 comments

While this will be difficult for me, I feel that I need to share this with you since I’ve shared other things…

Yesterday, I broke up with Dono. I really don’t feel any kind of way about. One of my friends thinks this is because I have been over it for a longer period. I felt relief when the words came out. I was waiting for him to ask questions, but he was silent. So, we got off the phone. It was a five minute convo. It felt weird hanging up without him asking anything.

I went about my day… This morning he sent me a text, asking me to call him before I went to work. I did. The questions started. I have been overwhelmed with his excuses of why he can’t do certain things and why he obliges his family’s BS. He doesn’t get it. We have had countless conversations about the specific issues–none of which he sees as a problem.

He believes it’s the distance and I should be able to think back on the “good times” until he can move to TX. I strongly disagree. If I feel this way now, I doubt moving here would be a solution. Plus, he wants to move here so he can be more independent. That’s all well and good, but he uses me as the reason as well. To me, he should get it together before any type of move. I am the only person he would know here. I can just see his dependence on his family changing to a reliance on me.

I’ve told him I feel detached from him, which (again) he believes it’s the distance. Well, many times when we are on the phone, he is distracted by whatever is in front of him–TV, schoolwork, etc. There is no time for us. He chooses to do those things while we are on the phone, so really how else could I feel? It’s like he wants me there only when he has time to fit me into his schedule. So I feel, he doesn’t need me to be around.  I’m sure we’ll talk again…I’ll keep updating this.

Posted by Charanne   @   14 September 2009 3 comments

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Sep 15, 2009
12:39 PM
#1 thehdic :

OH honey!! I’m so sorry to hear this! But I am so happy that you are clear about what is acceptable for you in your relationship and not excepting less than that…

Your right he may just end up transfering his dependence on you… Before he can be your man he has to be his own… If its meant to be it will! IN the meantime I hope you continue to share with us so we can support you!

Love ya!

Sep 15, 2009
10:47 PM
#2 April :

Wow I wasn’t expecting to read this! You seem to be at peace with your decision!
I’m here if you need me!

Sep 27, 2009
7:45 AM
#3 De Dee :

Girl, You are smart and brave! I know whatever is for you, will be! You are very wise to see things now, rather than choosing to be or stay with someone because you have been with them for so long. I wish you continued wisdom.

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