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All kinds of awesome….

thehdic — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:20:59 +0000

So last night was my stepdaughters birthday dinner… My stepdaughter is pretty awesome… And I realllyyy can’t believe that she is 10. All I can think of is the first time I met her… She was so little and asked me to watch Finding Nemo with her and gave me the full and complete play by play of what was happening on the screen! She also used to call me “Senamie” then, but now she is waaaayyyyy to cool for that. She may start to call me, “Old lady, who makes me clean up my room” before the year is out!

Anyway around here for birthdays we have a dinner as a family and the birthday girl or boy can choose ANY Restaurant they want… Thankfully fore our wallets, these folks haven’t figured out what fine dining is… Typically the kids choices are Chuckie Cheese, Old Country Buffet, Rainforest Cafe, and stuff like that… Although when her older brother had his dinner last month, he chose Chili’s. Because as he said, Now that he’s a preteen and all he needs to expand his tastes… So we classed it up with 2 for $20 Big Mouth Burgers all around!

While my stepdaughter is all about the classy, but she’s no fool! She chose a chinese buffet all you can eat Orange Chicken & Jello is all she needs! Well that & the Jonas Brothers! LOL

Anyway we had a fun night out as the whole family. It was FREEZING, RAINY, AND NASTY out but we still manage to look damn good… We still all look like and ad for the United Colors of Beneton when we go out…

Its always funny to watch the people trying to figure out how we all fit as a family…. I don’t mind it though. Cause we figured out we fit just fine a long time ago….

But I really should have taken a pic cause we all had on various shades of grey and all matched a bit. We looked damn good. Michael and the boys all had on sweater vests… Yup the twins wore the cutest little sweater vests with white dress shirts and jeans… When we took them out of their car seats like 4 tables of people, Awwwwwwww’ed out loud… It was hilarious and very cute.

The food was shockingly bad.

I love grease and sweet, which is typically where a Chinese Buffet shines brightest, but this mess was GROSS. And the waitress was shockingly weird. I asked her for kid waters for the babies and she came back with freaking big gulp size cups filled to THE TOP with water and ice and then proceeded to place each glass DIRECTLY in front of each of them… They were BESIDE themselves! Clay literally CLAPPED! LOL! They just knew they were going to be giving the tables ice water baths! Luckily Michael and I snatched them glasses up quick before the babies could have created the Nile river all over the tables and our dinners!

Anyway on the way home Michael and I had a convo about how terrible the food was! He was like the Ice Cream sucked. So that lead us to a convo about the ice creams that we have at home… So I don’t know if I’ve told ya’ll this before but Michael is the greatest Ice Cream lover ANYWHERE… I mean I could tell you a zillion stories about this dude and his Ice Cream Obsession…

But let me just say… when we first started dating we took that obligatory first grocery store trip together. I now know how HUGE that is cause my baby HATES shopping and we have probably been in a grocery store together 2 since that in the almost 8 years we’ve been together. He will go but he will much rather starve and just wait for me to. LOL Anyway….

So its our first shopping trip together, and there were three fabulous/hilarious things that stood out about that trip:

1. He’s a food snob but realllyyy Cheap. I grabbed 2 boxes of Jiffy Cornbread mix and he was like ” Tsk, Tsk, I thought you were a real chef !?! You don’t make your cornbread from scratch?” ( After he tasted my delicious version of Senam’s Smack Yo Mama Cornbread Delight his story changed)

2. He bought Crest toothpaste cause I had mentioned that I hated the AquaFresh that he had at his house. Like seriously, it was just an off handed comment. But I thought it was fantastically sweet when he reached for the Crest and asked me, “Is this the one you like, Baby?”

3. HE BOUGHT SIX DIFFERENT KINDS OF ICE CREAM! You read that right… SIX! Pure FOOLYWANGERY!
And not the little Ben and Jerry’s small ones… Nope… the big Honking half a gallon ones…

He eats Ice cream every night before bed. And is still stick skinny. I get fat from just moving the ice cream container over in the freezer to get ice for my water… NONSENSE! And he’s all about the variety… He needs to rotate them boys… Me on the other hand all I need is Chocolate Fudge Brownie and I’m a happy woman!
Anyway so he was talking about how the Chinese Buffet had committed the Cardinal Sin o’ Caref and served bad ice cream. So then I said, “Hey, what up with the Ice Cream choices we have at home.” I was out of town last week and they ran out of ice cream so he was FORCED to take the kids to the grocery store by himself! ( HA!) Anyway they bought some new flavors that are nasty :Fish and Grits Ice Cream, Ass Crack and Cream? I kid but you get the point. So we giggled about the flavor combos and then I said well you know me, I’m a one ice cream kinda gal.

So we get home and we are unloading all 50-11 of these kids we got and taking up bags and crap. So after everything is upstairs Michael grabs his raincoat and runs downstairs again. I assume that he is getting something he forgot out the car. So I get changed, give Solstice a bath and start getting the twins ready for bed too… And when I’m done with all this I realize that Michael is nowhere to be found. Its been almost 20 mins by now… Where is he? So just as I’m about to call 911. In walks my husband, SOAKED thru and thru carrying a target bag with what in it….

Yup… This dude walked in the RAIN to Target to go get me the flavor of Ice Cream I like…. No other reason… Trust me I asked! I was like… Ummm why did you go to Target.. He said, To get you ice cream! All Nonchalant and shit… Like that wasn’t the biggest pimp move since I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT! He did it just so I could when the spirit moved me have the flavor I liked….

So then I proceeded to do this….

SWOON! GASP! FAINT!

Yea, Its official…. My husband is ALL KINDS OF AWESOME!!! So I will now be coming home with a bag with nothing but this in it…

tee hee.

Operation Happy Marriage: What do you wanna do?

thehdic — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:12:36 +0000

You know, I’ve been with Mr. HDIC for almost 8 years. And in these almost eight years we have gone out on countless “dates” but what I have noticed for us is now that we are sort of in the groove of life, babies, and family… The whole date thing has gotten a little stale… I know every relationship book, expert, random fool on the street will tell you to date your spouse to maintain a good marriage… But….. Lord he’s going to kill me for saying this… But umm Watching a movie is getting played… I think since the twins came, we are always so excited to finally be out the house that neither one of us has time to plan anything fun or fabulous for the other person… We usually end up saying, ” What do you wanna do?” over and over again to each other… And that is very, very LAME.

So In an effort to spice up our “erratic-should-be-scheduled-regularly-but-don’t- nobody-want-to-babysit-twins-every-week” date night.We are going to be coming up with 5 things for us to do on our date night that we have never done before that we each think would be fun! Short simple easy dates that are different from the regular, dinner movie, sex in the back of the minivan dates we usually do. They should be things that you all have never done together before!

I’m still adjusting my list but here is what I got:

1. Go to a gym and take a fun class together or use their rock climbing wall!

Most gyms have a free trial or a discounted price for a simple one day/class visit. Google the gyms in your area find a cool class and sign you and the hubster up! I found a class by us that is called: BOLLYWOD AEROBICS! According to the description: The movements in Bollywood style are fun, athletic and a fusion of styles from classical Indian dance to modern jazz and hip-hop. My husband doing Indian Dance, Modern Dance,& Hip Hop…. Hilarity will ENSUE!

2. A photo shoot!

I like my husband. I think he’s a real cutie. And he also claims to think I’m pretty cute too! I like his back and he thinks my fingers are cute.. So I think it would be fun to get our cute stuff together and go to some cute local location and take pics of each other… I think Michael will hate this one BTW but its my date night! I can pick what I want! But I’m sure he may come to enjoy himself when he sees one of the AHEM special outfits I might pick for the photoshoot! tee hee

3. Go to a local high school football or basketball game!

I know we don’t have any high school aged children but I was thinking this would be a cheap fun way to do something we’ve never done before… We can marvel at how young all the kids are, tell stories about our high school experiences and maybe just being around all those young folks will make us feel like high schoolers again… Who knows… Maybe, I’ll let him kiss me behind the bleachers…

I told Michael my idea about coming up with dates and he gave me that goofy guy smirk, and said I got all five of mine already… So then I had to tell hime that all five of them couldn’t be solely revolving around sex… So now he has none. LOL! You may have to give your husband the same rule… Dang shame… LOL

ANyhoo at the beginning of the week for the next ten weeks place all of your ideas in a hat for each other. DO NOT LET THE OTHER PERSON PEEK AT YOUR IDEAS… Draw a slip of paper and whoever’s date it is has the week to plan it and should give the other person a cryptic idea of how to dress, what to bring, time, date, etc. Then go on your date and have an awesome time doing what was randomly chosen… I like this one cause there is an element of surprise, a chance to experience something new together, and an oppurtunity to spend time doing something fun with your spouse. Also having a week of suspense trying to figure out what the other persons date is, is always fun!

SO what are you ladies gonna do? Come join us over on the forum where we will be discussing our dates in detail!

Stay fierce fabulous and dating ya man,

TheHDIC

Financially Married After: Merging Finances

sweetpy — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:46:13 +0000

This is the first in a series about money and marriage.

When getting married and combining your lives, some things are easy…

“Umm honey, let’s not go with your artwork.”

And some thing, well, not so easy…

“You want me to give you MY on-line banking password?!?!”

Figuring out how you will handle your finances once you say I do may end up being just as hard if not harder than picking your wedding colors, or what kind of flowers you’ll have, but it’s probably one of the most important decisions you’ll make. Money merging and future maintance is the one thing you cannot avoid discussing before getting married. Take a guess, what’s the number one reason why married couples divorce? Yep, it’s all about the Benjamins baby!

Here are a few tips to get the dialogue going.

Come to the table with a copy of your credit report from the three credit agencies, (Experian, Equifax and TransUnion) make a list of your combined debt and note where there are trouble spots so there are no surprises going forward. Remember, once you say I do, you are responsible for his debts as he is for yours.

Make a budget of your future expenses (if you don’t live together) and figure out who will pay what? Every couple is different. Some split it down the middle 50/50, some have one pay all of the bills and the other save their check. Find what works for you and commit to a budget and paying system.

Talk about where your income will go. Will you keep your own accounts, merge everything into one, or just add each other’s name to all accounts. Many couples on this forum have separate checking and savings accounts. We tried that for a few months and found that it really was easier for us to merge our finances (that whole two become one theory works-lol). We use one primary shared checking account for our expenses, and have shared savings/retirement/insurance accounts.

Set goals for your financial future. Agree on a set of short term and long term goals that you both want to meet. Short term goals may include money to celebrate an anniversary or upgrade a vehicle. Long term goals may include money for a down payment on a home, and money for retirement.

Figure out spending allowances per month for personal purchaces. Maybe, it’s $250 a month, or maybe it’s an undefined amount with a discussion with your partner on what will be purchased.

All you need is love, love…

Admin — Wed, 27 May 2009 03:04:24 +0000

Love is all you need…

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